Family Failures

Why do families always chose to support the best and the brightest out of the bunch? They go through all of this hoopla to make sure the gifted in the family are recognized but fail to do so with other family members? I guess everyone wants to brag to say hey I had a hand in that child's life and look where they are now. But, I never see the same time spent on those who are considered the troubled ones, who need the attention, love and support the most? It hurts my heart that families do this and then don't want to help said person(s) when they want to change. A families success story is just as important as the ones they consider failures. It starts early, no child or even people learn or think the same; their thought processes are different. Yet no one wants to be that guiding light for those whose talents need a little more polish than others.

Take me for example, very deep things would be affecting me and I buried myself in my school work so I didn't have to think about them and I could preoccupy myself that way. I was always looked at as the good student of the bunch and everyone had (still have) high hopes for me. Everyone wants to say look I gave her that helping hands, I did this I did that. My sister on the other hand is an incredible writer and most of our family wouldn't know that because she is considered the one who is hard-headed, stubborn, a trouble-maker, etc. It just would be nice if she would have gotten the same attention as I and maybe she would be a little better off.

Kind of pisses me off because I recognized us being treated differently when we were younger and brought it to the attention of one of my family member's to which she replied " (Sister's Name) is doing that to herself, she is responsible for her own actions, so no I am not willing to extend my hand out to help her" or something like that. Now I don't disagree that my sis is responsible for her own actions but responsibility is something I don't think falls onto just one person. People should be there along the way to point out why what you did was irresponsible and the repercussions it has without being condescending and rude!

I'm a Woman, So That Must Mean I am Helpless!

Hey, guess what I found out? I am not capable of defending myself so therefore I need a man to do so. Yeah Bullshit, I know! On one hand I can understand a friends of loved ones concern with me having so many male friends and how friendly I am with EVERYONE. However, I would greatly appreciate it if once they found out about any of my new friends that I wasn't reduced to this helpless female incapable of taking care of and protecting herself. Granted women are attacked and raped on the regular, why should I live in fear of people around me, especially when I refuse to do so.

I told my boyfriend and one of our good friends about a couple new guy friends that I met and they both jumped on the defensive, "Oh where you meet him at?" and "I need to meet him so I can find out what his intentions are". So of course I am like 1) neither one of yall my damn daddy (yeah I resorted to that) 2) where is all this concern when I am out shopping at night by my-damn-self 3) why aren't you concerned about all the friends I make ( women are scandalous too) and 4) when was not able to judge people on my fuckin own?

I don't choose to look at all people I meet with distrust. I'm not afraid of letting people know me because that is who the hell I am, ME. I am not as naive as people believe me to be I just don't jump up and yell bullshit when someone says something suspect. We all know its bullshit so why point out the obvious ya know.

Whats kept me somewhat safe for so long is the fact that I follow my gut instinct and don't think twice about it, and the fact that I always have something that can be used as a weapon when need be. I have always held my own because I learned very long ago survival is something that you must do. I have survived alot, so trust me when I say reducing me to some in dire need, damsel in distress is far from something that I am not. I may not be the strongest but if I feel that I am any type of dangerous situation whomever is pitted against me gonna have one hell of a time.

Sweetheart that's not cute!...vol.2

Ladies Edition:
Okay, so now we have to address people's clothing habits. I think that it is absolutely inappropriate for a woman to wear jeans and there is flesh hanging over or bulging out of said clothing. Sweety no one wants to see your muffin tops mmm'kay.

Jeans that are visibly too tight are not attractive either. KNOW your shape, point blank. For example, if you have a big butt don't wear low rider jeans. Low rider jeans, they were not created for you and will not fit you properly which leaves you flashing your crack whenever you sit, squat, or bend over. Trust me people don't really wanna see that. In fact when I do see that it causes me to vomit just a lil.

If you have no butt, don't wear apple bottom jeans. Those jeans were created for a select few and chances are they didn't have you in mind when they did. Now if they created a flat back or wide back jeans you'd be the prime candidate for those.

And lord don't get me started on shirts. If you are extremely top heavy don't wear shirts that are v-cut. It looks like you stuffed to hams down the front of your shirt. This is no where near attractive. Now I know some of you can't help it, but you can buy better shirts and things more flattering to your figure.

The moral of the story is don't ruin pretty clothing with your figure because you can't put an outfit together!

The Great Debate: Can Men and Women Be Just Friends?

Try having this discussion in a crowded room and be prepared for all hell to break lose! People yelling, looting, and talking down to anyone who disagrees with what they have to say. And this is where I usually am...right in the middle arguing with everyone around me usually throwing out some random things like "you're an idiot" and "that's just plain stupid!"

I guess I am the only one who still believes that a man and a woman can be JUST FRIENDS without them being attracted to each other. Now, granted alot of people tend to start out as friends and end up with each other, but I happen to think that they are just going with what is familiar to them and what they are comfortable with. I mean who wouldn't jump at the chance to date one of their great friends who has been there for them constantly and you already know their behavioral patterns as much as they know yours. Who wouldn't want to go with the safer choice versus the unknown?

My thing is this I have plenty of guy friends. Some, if not most, happen to be my ex-boyfriends' and we are still friends. So at one point in time we were attracted to eah other, however this is not the case now.

I have always thought that is is possible for a man and a woman to just be friends and nothing more. Why do we have to reduce everyones friendships by whether or not that person(s) attractive? And who the hell makes friends with people they only find attractive? It is humanly possible to be friends with someone because you guys enjoy the same interests.

But, as usual people have been brainwashed into thinking the xact opposite. I mean look at all the shows, books, movies, song, etc exploring friendship on another level. How many times will this crap be force fed into our brains? And it is always the same unrealistic scene that plays out...such and such has that sudden spark that makes them fall for the other person after x amount of years of friendship. Which further plays into some stereotypical bullshit and makes all relationships harder.

I am sure there are plenty of people who have been friends for years and never looked twice at each other, but then again we may never know because no one wants to bring up the positive in these relationships. No, they wanna bring out how such and such started dating his friend and how badly things turned out.

I hate when people make things into something they are not. Men and Women can be JUST FRICKIN FRIENDS!

...Oh you have a son? Are You Married?

This is by far the most annoying fucking question I have heard in my life...right along with "oh you live together...are you married?"

The very next person to ask me this dumb ass question will spend the next 10 minutes of their life getting their ears blessed from the slew of curse words and inappropriate phrases that will flow so naturally from my mouth.

What is it with people who want to know if I am married because I have a kid. News flash, marriage does not mean you have to have kids. I have a uterus which puts me in a great category to get pregnant and guess what HAVE A FUCKING CHILD.

And I swear if I hear its a sin to have a child out of wedlock I will bitch slap the next person who says this. You not suppose to do alot of shit because it is a sin but we do. So don't try and make it seem as though having a child out of wedlock is the greatest fucking sin in the world. Your being a judgemental asshole and guess what that's a sin so eat shit fuck face.

Marriage is not the fucking answer to every relationship. Its great, don't get me wrong for people to confess their love for one another in front of friends and relatives, however don;t push marriage on people who are not ready to take that step. Be happy that I am a good mother who is providing for her child without depending on aide from the state or anyone else for that matter.

How about congratulating someone for having a child instead of that condescending ass tone you love to use so often. I could have went the route you or one of your family members chose and aborted my child because I wouldn't want to be an unwed mother capable of taking care of that child and loving it until the world ends and beyond. Oh no, you have to push that bullshit this way. Well push pass me with that shit because I am one proud unwed mofo right now who wouldn't trade her baby in for not one damn person on this earth.

**Side note: Cursing could not be limited or prevented in this post, some people are assholes!**

parental Guidance is Required

BEAT HER ARSE WITH A BAG OF MARBLES!


OMG! We were at the park yesterday and these bad arse group of urban decay was not too far away from where the kids were playing. Now mind you, the idiots near the playground were well above the age of 12 but thought it was a good idea to curse the entire got-damn-time they were there. One of the lil assholes brought his damn pitbull (I love these dogs by the way, but not for a playground) up there so he could attempt to show off. The sad but funny part about it was that he was not walking the dog the dog was walking him. We even had a hoodrat-ish chick hanging out with them and for whatever reason continued to do so even though they paid her no attention whatsoever. Anyway, my buddy was up there with his sons and he pointed out the fact that there were way too many kids up there and not enough parents. Which ultimately led me to wonder 1) who in the hell lets there bad ass kids roam the neighborhood?, 2) where are their damn parents?, and 3) what the hell happened to parental guidance and community togetherness?


I was truly shocked and amazed at the utter foolishness going on at the damn playground. I remember when they playground was respected somewhat like the church. People didn't smoke, drink, or curse on the grounds. I was there one day and some maggot-brained bastard decided he would start smoking a cigar right by the damn monkey bars...ASSHOLE! What the hell happened to people knowing where their children are and what they are doing?

**Sidenote: If I hear another little, and by little I mean under the age of 14, girl say, "imma put this on myspace!" I will personally trip her down a flight of steps. Okay maybe not, but damn why do children have to ruin something that was once fun.

Geez! What in the hell do we have to do to get our communities back right? I for one would love to have a home in the neighborhood we live in but their would be some serious rule changes. Like for one, well mannered children only in public places...if your child doesn't have the decency to have manners then they don't need to be near others. Oh, and I don't want the little bastards loitering anywhere bringing down my home value.

Personal Retreats

Okay, okay I admit it. I need a vacation away from life, love, family, and of course work! I have finally come to a point where I just need to go somewhere and relax and regroup for a couple days. I find it kind of hard to figure out what exactly I want when everyday life interrupts my thoughts a gazillion times a day.

The problem is I don't know when and where I should find the time to do this. I would especially feel bad because I feel like I am neglecting my duties as a mother and miss out on some valuable time that I could be spending with my son.

I frickin hate feeling like this because I am the one who typically gets the short end of the stick. I don't get a chance to relax, nor do I have any me time. And the few times that I do have me time I have went about feeling guilty because I feel as if I am being selfish, which in turn makes the outing a whole lot shorter.

Feeling like this sucks the most because I hav efinally hit a point in my life where I need to make some major, and possibly life-changing decisions and I cannot do so properly and thoroughly because of all the things I have to deal with on a daily basis. I feel like somewhere between then and now I kind of lost a little piece of myself, and to get it back is probably gonna be hell.

Relationships Roles

So apparently the rest of society knows the secret roles of men and women in relationships, while I being of sound mind and completely sober have no effing clue what the hell they are.

I have had some interesting conversations with my male friends and they seem to be under the notion that their woman is supposed to know her role. Of course I asked what the hell that role was? To which they reply "You know, cater to her man...cook, clean, let me be the decision-maker, I have the final say in things, submissive, blah, blah, blah." Now that's some seriously unadulterated sexist shyt right there. And the worst part about it is that a lot of them truly believe this.

I wonder why I wasn't brainwashed like the rest of these people they meet that believe this shyt.Responsibilities, not roles, lie in all relationships and they should be shared equally. You both have the responsibility to pay bills, cook dinner, take care of the kids, be committed to one another, etc, etc...

Personally, the day I have to take on motherly responsibilities towards a grown ass man will be the day I am single. I have never wanted a man who couldn't do shyt for himself, okay well there was that one guy I liked but thats another story + I ain't do shyt for him. I don't know how people fall into these stereotypical ass relationships that seem to be straight out of the 50s.

And people need to stop half raising boys and letting them out of housework they don't deem a man's work. A real man knows how to cook food that can be digested by humans, wash his own damn clothes, and clean up after himself. People also need to teach their daughters more than this housework bullish because you aren't doing anything but creating another woman who will ultimately be dependant on a man to do shyt that she could possibly do for herself.

Why can't people just understand that there aren't any roles in a relationship?

Attempted Thuggery in College

There is an increasing amount of foolishness walking amongst the educated and determined on college campuses across America. Those of us who truly wanted something outside of what we are/were used to and expand our knowledge into something outside of "hood" knowledge.

But, while we are pursuing our education why must we run into these ass clowns who never got the memo that "Being intelligent is a good thing!" I am so sick and tired of running into these assholes, who's sole purpose is to make the college experience less than favorable.

These are the idiots that come to class never or when they do they usually are disruptive the entire time. They are always bragging about how drunk and/or high they are/were and what chick they are messing with, will mess with, or would like to mess with.

Sometimes, I just wanna stop them and ask them why the hell did you come to college in the first place? Is it because your mom didn't want your triffling ass staying in her house after high school? Is it because your parents needed the right-off on taxes? Did you promise the LORD to go to college when your ass was suppose to go to jail? I mean like what is it that they think they are doing? The ish is nowhere near cool and quite frankly someone should tell them they are the laughing stock of the effing world.

It is cool to laugh and joke in class but the whole damn period, na thats not cool. Let me break it down for you... Right now the average tuition of a college is somewhere around $12, 000 a semester/ $9500 if you're not staying on campus. Which means if you take 12 credit hours you are full-time. Now each class may be 3 credit hours which makes the total for just one class $2375/ each credit is $761.66. If the course is a standard 16 week course then I am paying roughly $48 a week for classes.

Now I don't know about you but the average college student doesn't have alot of money (not credit cards actual money) to waste on bull-ish. Quite frankly no one has money to waste in college. I say those of us who understand that tuition costs big bucks smack the dogsh-t out of anyone who interrupts our classes with foolishness and get the most for our money.

Get a effing clue, idiots!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Our Beloved Music

OUR MUSIC NOWADAYS SUCKS!!!!

NOT ALL OF IT, BUT MOST OF IT. THIS IS WHY I AM SO SELECTIVE ABOUT THE CDS I BUY AND ARTISTS I SUPPORT.

FEMALE ARTISTS PLEASE, PLEASE NO MORE OF THESE FAIRYTALE ASS STORIES ABOUT LOVE. REAL COUPLES ARGUE AND MORE IMPORTANTLY THEY HAVE MAKE-UP SEX!

MALE ARTISTS NOBODY GIVES A DAMN ABOUT YOUR DIAMONDS, CARS, CREDIT CARDS, JUMPOFFS, DRINKS, OR CLOTHES. LET IT GO, LIKE FOR REAL ITS LAME. ALL THE SONGS SOUND THE SAME AND TO MAKE IT WORSE THEY HAVE DANCES TO GO WITH THEM!

IS IT REALLY THAT HARD TO FIND TALENTS OR SONGS OF SUBSTANCE OR MUST THE MUSIC COMPANIES CONTINUE TO INSULT US WITH THIS BULLSHIT THEY CONSIDER MUSIC BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO REACH A TARGET AUDIENCE OF IDIOTS.

NOW DON'T GET ME WRONG I LOVE MUSIC AND WILL LOVE IT UNTIL THE DAY I DIE, BUT IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK TO GET SOME MUSIC WITH SOME SUBSTANCE AND IT ACTUALLY MAKE IT MAINSTREAM. OR MUST ALL THE INTELLECTUALS STAY UNDERGROUND TO MAKE THEIR MONEY?

Semi-Christians

Ahh, its a touchy subject for most, seeing as though the only time some of us resemble Christians is on Sunday. Mr/Mrs. Don't Curse on the LORD'S Day, drive past the LORD'S house playing that worldly music, or use the LORD'S name in Vain. How is it that the only time we observe GOD is on Sunday or when we want something?

I have always found this to be amazing, even as a child. I always wondered why Sister Such and Such was always coming over to gossip about someone else; always saying something negative about so and so or their bad ass kids (everyone knows they are bad, but no one wanted to step in and give them guidance); oh and my favorite, "Girl, if that was me..."

My thing is, why is everyone so damn religious when it comes to things they don't agree with (ie same-sex marriage). I am amazed at the amount of people who can quote word for word verses from the bible, yet these are the same people who are not following the word either. I have one word for all these people, yall some "SEMI-CHRISTIANS!"

T.I said it best "we all sinners/ what matters is in the center/ I know GOD see my heart/ and I'm a stand up figa (well he said the n-word but I replaced it). So there, get mad if you like, but chances are if you mad then I am talking to you. If you don't like it change your ways and how you act towards people, cus it is in fact in the BIBLE.

The Typical Vacation, ummmm sucks

Okay, so last year we went to Myrtle Beach for vacation and it was beautiful, absolutely gorgeous. I love the town and attractions and the shopping, lol. However, why when I am trying to plan a vacation everyone wants to go to the usual places i.e. Miami, Vegas, LA, etc...

Vacations are to relax and get away from everyday life (work especially), excuse me if I don't want to go to these big, busy ass cities crowded by a mass number of tourist from not just here, but every damn where. So I took it upon myself to investigate a couple not so known places, to US as a whole and these fools are like what are we gonna do there. We are going to do the same damn thing we did in Mrytle Beach, eat every damn where all the damn time, shop, sleep, visit some attractions, and take plenty of pics.

I mean these are some top-notch places and by no means cheap, very nice resorts. I just think it would be nice to go somewhere out of the norm and actually enjoy it 110%.

And people wylin' out on vacation is NOT a good look, very unattractive, and uncalled for. You can laugh, dance, party, and drink and maintain some sort of class. But very few do this because for the most part we have fallen under the notion that belligerent drunk + vacation= one helluva time.

Excuse me for maintaining myself while in a town I know little about and barely know where I am going and partying with people who have no obligations to me whatsoever. I will drink myself into a stupor in the comfort of my own home, thank you (LOL).

Sweetheart...Thats Not Cute! vol.1

Okay so I have grown and matured slightly and feel the need to guide these poor people who have no clue. Not mold them into mini-mes but give the some unadulterated truth, because it seems they aren't getting it or using it anywhere else.

Everyday, I see something that irks me to the core. So today we shall address MANNERS!

Good Morning, afternoon, or evening ARE NOT, I repeat ARE NOT, open invitations to smirk, smile, remain silent, stare off into space,scratch your head, adjust your clothing or twiddle your thumbs. Someone found it in their hearts to acknowledge you are in fact there and not look past you as the rift-raft some of you dress like. I don't know how many times I have walked past of or some of these kids and said my greeting and they look like I said something to them in a foreign language. How about this open your mouth and say something back, like hmmmmmmmmmmmmm iono "Good ____(insert morning,afternoon,evening here). It won't kill you, trust me...see this is how it's suppose to go

me: Good Morning!
you: Good Morning!

instead of this:

me: Good Morning!
you:

Oh and another thing, people do not hold the door open for you because you are royalty or even entitled to it. We do it because it is called common courtesy. Don't just walk through the door and not say THANK YOU.You may not meet someone as nice as me and brush it off, they instead may push your lil tail back out the door and close it in your face, leaving you angry, ashamed and embarrassed. And if someone happens to tell you THANK YOU, respond with YOUR WELCOME.

And, EXCUSE ME/PARDON ME, is not the only time you pass gas. If you walk through two people having a conversation or want to interject and add something of relevance. Oh how I wish sometimes when this happened I had a yo-yo, cus I would bop you in the back of the head with it for being so darned rude.

When asking for something, say PLEASE, there is nothing worse than someone asking for something and they don't say please. I can't even count how many times people will ask me to do something or get something and won't say PLEASE. They ask and give you that look like shouldn't you be moving now. So I stand there and they will be like "oh am I forgetting something" or "did you need anything else" and that's when I say "sure" as sarcastically as possible, "PLEASE!" The dumbfounded faces I have seen alone when I say "PLEASE" is enough to have me laughing the rest of my life.

I am sure I am missing out on some others but, these stuck out the most